Focusing on the most important issues, whatever the age of a child. Based on the reallife experiences of carolyn whiteeditor of only child, parent, and educatorand hundreds of interviews with only children and parents of only children, the seven common sins of parenting an only child celebrates the special rewards and opportunities of the single child family and offers a practical and often humorous. In social settings, the only child is much more desperate for the friendships of others his or her own age than the child with siblings. Single child families are more common than ever before, yet many parents are concerned that they are somehow cheating their child of a real family experience. If you have just one kid or your kid is just sick of their siblings at the moment, here some terrific kids books that really show what it means to be an empowered. Newmans book is based on her personal experience of raising an only child. An only child will be under great emotional pressure while the process of divorce between his parents is on. Jun 25, 2017 raising children is always filled with joys and challenges, and raising an only child can have more of both.
One playdate or afterschool activity can easily score my husband and i date a night out. Had one mc before and after his birth, and due to chemotherapy went into early menopause when he was three. Jun 11, 20 in her book one and only, journalist lauren sandler, an only child and mother of one, takes on these stereotypes and explains the joys of raising just one. This is a place where you share your stories, spread the love, discuss issues, and find solutions to parenting problems you might be facing. I only seem to find childrens books about being an only child, and even those are few and far between. In this book, susan newman gives her advice to parents about how to raise an only child and helps them defeat the only child stereotypes. Book recommendations only child experience and research. The pros and cons of being an only child tim and olives. Jul 12, 2017 raising one child isnt easy, but i confess to having more free time than parents with multiple kids. Parenting an only child may be a demanding job, but you are not alone in your struggle. Recommended parenting booksthe center for parenting education. For most only children, perfectionism seems to go with the territory. The book is a must read for only children, their parents, and even critics of those parenting an only child.
May 20, 20 this said, i believe the quality of the only child friendship with parents, based on compatibility and loyalty and commitment in a relationship taken seriously, can contribute to an adolescent. The following are recommended parenting books by topic. Find out how an only child s personality is formed, and. And if you want to foster a great relationship with your own offspring, start with the 40 parenting hacks for raising an amazing kid. Jul 24, 2019 lauren sandler grew up as an only child, never giving it much thought until she became a mother and decided she was happy raising one kid. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only a clear and helpful guide to parenting the only child. The author, lauren sandler is an only child herself and the mother of one child. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only parenting an only child. As an only child, now raising an only child, i am grateful for the insightful and unique perspective this book offers the reader. The newly revised and updated seventh edition of caring for your baby and young child reflects current aap policy statements and guidelines. The title of this yuppie apologia for the one child family is a bit misleading, since newman never say yes to a stranger has devoted only about a third of her discussion to parenting.
The downtoearth advice makes it your supportive guide for raising a happy, welladjusted child. Apr 10, 2017 there are perks to being an only child yay, no handmedowns but some downsides, too. Fiveyearold ruthie spends all of her time with her invisible friend named jessica, and her parents are worried what will happen when ruthie starts kindergarten. Harper collins useful material for parents, with an us slant.
The book was filled with firsthand accounts of being an only child, but rather than adding to the book, it was too distracting. Aug 24, 2017 heres a list of books to support us on our journey of raising our wild, freespirited kids. Im raising an only child and its not the end of the world. By a childcare authority and mother of an only child, this. Journalist lauren sandler is an only child and the mother of one.
What being an only child says about you, according to science. Aug 14, 2001 i would recommend this book to anyone thinking about having an only child. Jan 11, 2017 im raising an only child and its not the end of the world. Since almost a third of todays american parents are opting for onechild families, only children have become a popular subject for books in the past year ellie. The seven common sins of parenting an only child, by. When children start asking the tough questions, this parenting book helps you find the words you need. However, formatting rules can vary widely between applications and fields of interest or study. No one has ever scored a book 10 out of 10 in the 26 months weve been running the book club. He is also only a child and, like so many kids his age, inadvertently wise.
The other two thirds givese justifications for only having one child. How parents can raise a good child verywell family. Theres a certain look that only children get when they reveal that they. Raising just one child already requires a lot of time, energy and money.
Being one, loving one, understanding one, raising one. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only ebook 9780767909402 by susan newman. By a child care authority and mother of an only child, this useful, knowledgeable book provides sound advice on creating an enriching environment thats stimulating and enjoyable for only children and their parents alike. Not only did i raise an only child by choice, but i became a single parent when she was 7. Onlychild families are becoming the new traditional family, for a number of reasons, says social psychologist and author susan newman, ph. This book comes specially addressed to all of you, after the author susan newman, herself the mother of just one child delved deep into the trend of american couples choosing to have one child. I suppose that would be useful for some folks who are having a hard time deciding or dealing with the issue, but i was looking for more information about. This sweet picture book, from the creator of chrysanthemum and kittens first full moon, does a beautiful job of showing how rich and powerful the imagination of an only child can be. Through subsequent editions, kelley expanded and updated the book to reflect new developments in the bleeding disorders community. Susan newman lets you know that far from being damaged, only children. This read tops our list of co parenting books because guides both adults and children through the transition process.
Ira wohl, psychotherapist, filmmaker, and winner of an academy awarda for best feature documentary for best boy. We had the chance to speak with susan newman on our radio show radio health journal about the challenges and triumphs of raising only child. The second half of the book deals with parenting an only child and is a very good resource for those who have already made the decision. A split is challenging for the whole familynot just the couple parting. Raising a thinking child is a major resource that can increase the vitality and creativity of being a parent of a young child. In her book parenting an only child the joys and challenges of raising your one and only, she presents the opinions of a large cross section of. In her book one and only, journalist lauren sandler, an only child and mother of one, takes on these stereotypes and explains the joys of raising just one. The only child project is a community for parents raising an only child.
Pdf parenting an only child download full pdf book. The rest of the book is on each stage of raising your sensitive child, with many practical tips as well as research findings on what really works with these particular children. The conundrum of parenting too much or too little is one that is faced by many parents of an only child, and it is sometimes difficult to find the right balance. I read about this book on a dc parenting forum and decided to look for it at the library, but, as i was reading it, i realized it was basically a list of seven common sins of raising any child, period, regardless of whether they are an only, oldest, middle, youngest, etc. While by no means a complete listing all of all the wonderful books that have ever been written, it does include our favorite oldies, but goodies as well as newer publications that delve into the issues relevant to todays society.
Off to the right startsoothing and attuning to highly sensitive infants. In her new book one and only, the writer lauren sandler describes what. A recent cover story by time magazine indicated that 1 in 5 american families are choosing to have only one child. The author brings together an interesting array of sources, from actual studies, to his own personal experience as an only child to write an engaging book that is part analysis and part memoir. As more people consider raising one child, parents are sorting through their notions about only children, trying to understand whether they and their children will be better or worse off if the. By a child care authority and mother of an only child, this. She begins the book by talking about her mothers decision to have only one child, explaining that she knew that she would be a much better mother if she were happy, and she.
This is book is part of a series of the best little books about child development. If you are even thinking about having only one child, and havent made your decision yet, you must read this book. They explain how and where and why we should all bring a little wild into our kids childhoods. This book explores all of the research out there that shows the why. Im a little late to this party, but i wanted to throw in my 2 cents because there are probably parents worried that perhaps their only children will be somehow damaged by being an only child. Only child is a book i was hesitant to read, because it is told from the perspective of a young child, however, any concerns i had on this front were for nothing. She spent about 3 months in the nicu but now is a healthy 16 month old, only with a slight delayed development. The dilemma of the only child personality research. The result is that the only child is a hybrid of the two personality types. The common sense book of baby and child care wikipedia. Jan 31, 2012 parenting an only child comes with plenty of perks.
Kappelman, a professor of pediatrics and author of what your child is all about, indicates how modern timesdissolution of the family, womens lib, the rise of divorce, etc. Only children want so much to please their parents, and because they peer with adults, they take on adult standards, says carl e. Based on twentyfive years of research and evaluation with parents and teachers in schools, the renowned i can problem solve program described in this book is now thankfully available for all parents. But if i were given the opportunity to have more than one child, i would. A guide for parents and families white, carolyn, smith, kirsten on. Presenting fascinating findings and family stories, dr. When children start asking the tough questions, this parenting book. Personal narratives were piled one on top of another. A funny, toughminded case for being and having an only child, debunking the myths about only children and taking glory in the pleasures of singletons. The reader understands things that he cant possibly fathom at his age. The adolescent only child only children grow through adolescence their own way. Parenting truths about raising an only child learning.
The only child project provides the support you need. I am the mother of an only child and have a difficult time finding any information about only children, especially parenting. If anything, it is more painful for the only child and her parents owing to the cohesiveness and the tight bond the parents and the child enjoyed with each other. Nonetheless, she expertly discusses the finer points of raising an only child, with tips for encouraging sharing, making sure your child isnt running the household and guarding against a state. Susan newman has been the first book ive highlighted sections of since college and my coworders love to borrow. The decision to be one and done seems to be hard for others to understand. A swift and absorbing readmay change your mind and the national conversation psychology today. The concept of writing this book through the eyes of a 6 year old was brilliant. The joys, myths, and challenges of raising an only child patricia nachman, andrea thompson on. Having an only child is not something that was on my radar, but it may be what is in our future. The joys, myths and challenges of raising an only childnew york. A powerful book, the case for the only child challenges misguided advice from family and friends, reveals the facts about only children, and teaches how to handle unwanted pressure and selfdoubt. Newman shares her knowledge and gives downtoearth advice, making this the most accessible, uptodate handbook of its kind.
The joys and challenges of raising your one and only. For couples who are already raising an only child, or for those who are exploring the option, parenting an only child offers encouraging clarity and singular. From her book, we can glean the joys and challenges of raising only kidsparticularly if they turn out to be as high achievers as jeanpaul sartre, hans christian andersen, albert einstein or leonardo da vinci. After all, parenting any number of children is tough, and who is someone else to criticize without having at least a view of the other side. Suddenly, making the same choice her parents had made. Why being the mother of an only child breaks me daily.
I love books that present good news most people dont know about. Only child families are becoming the new traditional family, for a number of reasons, says social psychologist and author susan newman, ph. In order to make these necessary friendships, the only child must take on the qualities of an extrovert. So anyone that plans on raising an only child, dont. If im being honest, theres almost nothing easy about it.
Having an only child gives you a mature, diligent, and conscientious little perfectionistbut it also comes with some tough parenting moments. The author is almost pushy about how raising an only child is the only way to parent. It is likely to be of interest to other only children like me who are better trying to understand themselves. The adolescent only child and friendship psychology today. Even though this book is called parenting an only child, only about a third of the book actually talks about parenting. My daughter was born at 28 weeks due to an emergency csection as a result of my chronic hypertension. Sep 22, 2010 useful book for parents and by a british researcher, somewhat polemical in saying the only child experience is not different, and unfortunately out of print. And for some people, they are only able to have one. This is a shift in previous decades, where larger families were the trend. I only seem to find children s books about being an only child, and even those are few and far between. For couples who are already raising an only child, or for those who are exploring the option, parenting an only child offers encouraging clarity and singular insight. May 31, 2018 the clinical psychologist linda blair, author of the book birth order, says there can be huge benefits to this family structure, as parents can focus all their time and energy on an only child.
Emotional attunement might mean more than the number of children you have. The common sense book of baby and child care is a book by american pediatrician benjamin spock and one of the bestselling books of the twentieth century, selling 500,000 copies in the six months after its initial publication in 1946 and 50 million by the time of spocks death in 1998. In her 2011 book, the case for the only child, she writes that many women are having children later in life, and that more and more families are concerned about the cost of raising children. How can we raise a good child, one who will do the right thing, even when no one may see them do it, and when there may be no reward. Parenting an only child is the essential handbook for raising an only child or for exploring the option. Apr 06, 2018 emotionally healthy parents make all the difference in how an only child turns out, says karen r. Only child syndrome is the belief that only children are spoiled, bossy, and antisocial but this stigma isnt actually true.
What i wasnt expecting was that it was also emotional and vulnerable, sometimes in subtle ways, sometimes through sandlers anecdotes about being an only child raising an only child. Why you are the way you are revell, only children can be so logical, scholarly, and straight. The ramifications of parenting an only child are pervasive, though. One and only is a fascinating little book about the value of only children or singletons. If they are aware of the pitfalls, they can avoid them. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one, journalist lauren sandler takes on these stereotypes. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only susan newman, author. This book is a labor of love, helping parents from birth to one year. She has plenty of time and energy to play with her 3yearold daughter, grace. Nonetheless, she expertly discusses the finer points of raising an only child, with tips for encouraging sharing, making sure your child isnt running the household and guarding against a stateoftheart child that would help any parent in our affluent, childcentered times. Review offers sound and practical advice in areas potentially worrisome and problematic for parents of only children. Here are some of the pros and cons to being an only child from my experience. It separates fact from fiction and offers fascinating findings and family stories.
Early scores for only child from members who cant attend next month are so far all 10s and im not surprised as its so very well deserved. Being one, loving one, understanding one, raising one sifford, darrell on. The topic is, of course, timely weve been talking a lot about this and i knew the book would be thoughtprovoking. In easily understood language, raising a child with hemophilia covers such topics as medical treatment, genetic transmission, child development, consumer issues, school and sports. We have a plethora of resources from child psychologists and experts who have the credibility, experience, and knowledge regarding this topic. For more about parenting adolescents, see my book, surviving your child s adolescence wiley, 20. The book has something of room by emma donoghue, which is also narrated by a child, and both offer an interesting perspective in looking at a situation that, when described by an. Finally, a valuable resource for those who have or are considering one child.
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